The Vibease Emerald... it's a real gem

Vibease's new "jewel" collection features the "Onyx" a vibrating cock ring, the "Ruby" a slim and double-tongued tip for clitoral stimulation, and the "Emerald", featuring vibrating rabbit ears, which I review here.

As usual, this is an AMAZING Vibrator that you can get an amazing discount (usually 10%, but sometimes more!) by clicking here: https://www.vibease.com/?p=GET10%OFF

Ok, first off, I am a part of the Vibease affiliate program, so I DO benefit if you buy this vibe, but I wouldn't have signed up for this program if I didn't believe in the product.

For all of my product reviews I will be reviewing the following features

1- Design

2-Ease of Use

3-Sensations

1- Design

Here's a pic of the toy!

As you can see from the pic above, the toy is not a discreet option! I was quite surprised at the size of the toy, as it was much larger than I had imagined. However, it's not too heavy and It is made from amazingly soft silicone, which allows for a great grip, and you can slide it around easily. It comes with two vibrating ears, which are designed to create a "pleasure zone" in between the two "ears". These ears are flexible, so you can put them on either side of your clit and "pinch" them together as necessary. It can also be used as a partner toy, with the ear sitting on either side of a cock or dildo and the vibrations give both partners sensations.

Design score: 4.5/5 (I prefer smaller toys, as I have really small hands)

2-Ease of use

As you can see from the pic above, the toy is large and not designed for direct contact. It did come with an instruction manual, which I failed to read... and I had problems figuring out if I was supposed to just use one ear, or straddle my clit. I am used to directly putting vibrations on my clit, so this took a bit to figure out. In terms of partner use, he figured out how to punch the ears together quite quickly and I came hard and fast multiple times. It also was easy to put between us while he was fucking me. The silicone material helps it stay in place.

Ease of use score: 4.5/5

3- Sensations

The vibe offers a variety of vibrating and control patterns. I LOVE that this vibe isn't "buzzy" at all. The Vibrations are deep, and deeply satisfying. My partner did mention that it felt a bit too intense on his cock when we were using it together, but I did have it on the highest setting during that time.

Sensations score: 5/5 (for solo use), 4/5 for partner use

Overall score 4.8/5

I am so happy with my Vibease Emerald and can't wait to use it again. I will most likely use it as a parter toy and a backup for when my battery dies on my original vibease!

While you're browsing the Vibease website, check out some of the erotica I've narrated for the site:

A Secretary's Spanking Punishment (Erotica) - by NicolaDiaz, narrated by Veronica Harder

Bad Wife Deserves A Good Spanking (Erotica) - by NicolaDiaz

and don't forget to use your coupon code!

Relationship Anarchy?

A polyamorous group I'm in had someone post an unintentionally hurtful meme about Relationship anarchy and having no rules. This turned into a great discussion about what RA means to people in that group, and it's something I thought we might want to discuss here. The beauty of RA is that is can mean different things to different people, and I wanted to share what RA looks like for me. I've copied my post from the other group below: Relationship anarchy does not inherently mean "no rules". It means no rules that are prescribed or assumed by the outside culture. That only the people in the relationship can define the rules. Relationship anarchy can completely have rules, it's just that they aren't the rules assumed by society or prescribed by anyone else. They are the rules you agree upon as a couple. Re: rules vs boundaries. Rules are "you can't do this" and are put in place by one partner or agreed upon by the couple. They impact someone other than yourself. Boundaries only involve your own behavior. To illustrate how "rules" and boundaries work in a relationship anarchy type relationship, I'll use an example from my boyfriend and me. We have agreed not to have unprotected PIV or PIA with anyone, including each other. This is a "rule" in our relationship. But the important difference between rules and boundaries is how they are "enforced". In a traditional non-RA relationship, breaking of "rules" is usually considered cheating. You would "punish" the other person for breaking them. Vs with boundaries, you control your own response to them. When a boundary is crossed, we would have a conversation about how this made us feel and works towards a solution together and see what our relationship needs. For instance, if one of us had unprotected sex with someone else, the other partner would refrain from having sex with that partner until two weeks and a clear STI test comes back. We're controlling our own safety by removing sex. This isn't a punishment for the other partner, it's simply controlling for safety. This combined with a good conversation can resolve the hurt and preserve the relationship, without creating a "bad partner" dynamic that is present in some non-RA relationships. So our unprotected sex "rule" functions like a boundary in that we're not trying to control the other partner's behavior, but we adjust our own behavior in response. However, It's perfectly acceptable to have a "rule" in a relationship anarchy situation. When I started dating my boyfriend, he said that he'd only accept rules around safety (see above) and practicality. This is where our one "rule" comes into play. Communication. About schedules, about safety, about everything. This is the area where I would consider it cheating if it wasn't followed. For instance, if boyfriend were to have unprotected sex with someone else and didn't tell me about it, I would consider this cheating. I would consider ending the relationship. This is a "rule" he and I have agreed upon. But that doesn't make us hierarchical, or not relationship anarchists, because this "rule" didn't come from outside our relationship, we agreed upon this rule. Another important distinction between rules in RA vs rules in hierarchical poly or non-hierarchical polyam, is that rules without RA don't allow for additional partner's input. As an RA, it would be a problem if one of my "rules" or "boundaries" was in conflict with another partner's or metamours. Boyfriend and I had an example of this last year. Early in our relationship, boyfriend and I would share all the details from our sexual experiences with each other, because A- we thought it was hot, and B- because it helped me reduce any envy that I felt, or fear of the unknown. I have some trauma issues, and knowing the details helped me feel safe. We had agreed that we'd share details, and we always checked with other partners to make sure this was ok. It was a "rule" we agreed upon with each other. However, boyfriend started dating someone last year, who did not want sexual details to be shared, so we had to revise our "rules". If we were hierarchical, we'd have put our "rule" above the privacy of the partner. However, since we are an RA couple, we adjusted our expectations to accommodate this partner. What does Relationship Anarchy look like to you?

Important STI Info!

Important notes about STI screening:

Backstory: Went to Planned Parenthood today for my routine testing. I had just switched insurance, and finally my insurance covered PP, and wanted to give them money. Before that, I had been routinely tested by my primary care physician. Every 3 months.

Today at PP, they told me Chlamydia and Gonorrhea are site-specific (ie, they will live in one area, but not another). They recommended an oral and anal swab for these two. Before this, I had only been tested with a urine sample, which would only catch these infections if they were vaginal for me.

This means, in theory, anyone who has only had a urine screening for these two STI's could have them asymptomatically in their throats or anuses without knowing. I am so annoyed that if you ask your doctor for an STI screen, it's not standard to include these swabs. Many humans have unprotected oral sex. We often use condoms for PIV and PIA, but less use these for oral sex.

TLDR: when you get STI screening, be sure to get an oral and anal swab, in addition to your blood and urine screenings.

Site-specific testing = swabs for Chlamydia/Gonorrhea available orally, and anally. These two STI’s are commonly only screened for with a urine test which would not pick up these infections in the throat or anus. Planned Parenthood offers these tests upon request.